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2015 Local Business Awards

Really big thank you for all the votes we received for the 2015 Local Business Awards @LocalAwards

We are pleased to announce that MUTU World has been nominated a finalist.

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2015 Business Awards
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“Half myself mocks the other half.”

“Half myself mocks the other half.” – Joseph Joubert

Joesph Joubert was on to something when he made this statement, though I can’t help but wonder if it is not so much a half of us but more so one of many parts of us.

I am a big believer that our mind, conscious and unconscious, is made up of many parts. Just as our brain consists of cortexs and lobes, just as our body has limbs, organs, cells, systems and so on, just as we have the capability to sense and feel a vast array of emotions. We are creatures who, without a doubt, are greater than the sum of our parts (Kurt Koffka).

So how is it that some parts of our self detests another part, why is it that our procrastinating part can annoy and frustrate our motivational part and its allies. What is it about a collective group of parts that choose to be addicted, how is it that our self gives that or those parts more strength and control over the remainder of our whole being?

A story that describes the handing over of control for me is when my nervous part spasmodically pops up and takes over the calmness of my voice, causing it to shake as it leaves my larynx. I, for some reason, give ‘nervous’ the power to do this when other parts are weakened with vulnerability due to a challenging situation. Yet other, more physical parts of my body are not displaying that I am nervous. There have been times when all I need to do is state my name, yet ‘nervous’ attacks my voice.

This unexplained experience can then generate a whole series of other parts fighting or siding with other parts causing a complex state of conflict that may then feed into other areas of my hour, day, week etc.

Yet, at other times I allow my motivated self (including all the parts allied for my motivation) to rally up and generate a sense of achievement and pride within my behaviour. Similarly this experience can inspire a whole series of other parts collaborating and celebrating with other parts causing a euphoric state of confidence and belief that I excitedly drive into other areas of my hour, day, week etc.

Bearing in mind Lao Tzu words, “It is wisdom to know others; it is enlightenment to know one’s self.”, my challenge of myself is to reflect and investigate what has happened to and for me during positive and negative scenarios. Did I experience a negative reaction that I can learn from? What am I trying to tell myself, what do I need to do to strengthen my areas of need that became vulnerable in that situation. What was happening within and around me that generated my state of positivity. Was it actually an event leading up to this moment, perhaps I nourished my body with different food that morning, did I sleep more soundly, has another person been charitable to me? Remember, that as we are made up of many parts, so too is our life made up of many parts. Connect the intrinsic and extrinsic relations of our self and our world in life.

Finally and importantly, regardless of the experience, how did I feel and do I want to feel like that again? Observe and learn. Appreciate that you are a being of more parts than your whole and embrace the necessity of each and every part. What is that part’s strength, what is it’s need? This reflective practice offers you opportunity to create understanding, appreciation and collaboration of all your parts, reducing internal conflict and enabling a greater sense of self.

Crossing paths – Purpose or Mistake?

I often think about how our paths cross with others.

Purposefully, incidentally, co-incidentally, by mistake, randomly, intentionally….so many different ways.

Depending on the time it occurs and each of our own timing of where we are at in and with our life, will determine how this meeting of paths is to be affected. Whether opportunities are taken or declined.

Yesterday I met with someone in circumstances that can best be described as a mistake. This person was experiencing deep emotional pain and desperately seeking help and support. I know that I was the person needed, I know that we were meant to meet, however, the other person was looking for something else.

After a brief encountering of each other’s paths, they were once again travelling in different directions.

I had offered my time and timing to this mistaken crossing of paths. Unfortunately though, our timings were not in alignment and my offer was not enough to redirect their route from where they believed they should travel. It was their decision to make, rightly from their perspective. Possibly not from mine

Whilst I experienced disappointment, in so much that I believed our crossing of paths to be an opportunity and the other person observed the detour that our mistaken meeting granted them for healing to be bypassed. I also understand that we can all be blinded by the intent of our journey which often prevents us from experiencing the meaning of unexpected sights or detours along the way. It is an unknowing.

Sometimes we can be unsure of how much longer we may be able to endure the pain for and are afraid of it becoming any deeper that what we already feel. Our intention becomes blinkered and blinded as we so desperately seek what we think is our answer. Sadly, this unknowing does not protect us, as for true healing to occur, for our lives to move forward… our pain often travels deep beyond and to places where we may believe to be impossible. It is usually due to this fear of the unknown that we do not take time to generate space for thought and consideration. This is often because our time is precious and we just want to arrive.

Just as my path is my own, another person’s path is not mine to direct and so I continue along my own path wondering with whose I will next cross. Will I be open to all opportunity that is presented or recognise what might be worth exploring?

As my day continued, I came into contact with another person’s path. This particular crossing I describe as purposeful for them and unexpected for me. Similar to what had occurred earlier with my dually-mistaken crossing of paths, one of us offered time and timing. Dissimilarly, in this circumstance, the other agreed to consider the offering. It was now I who had the chance to re-direct my path. My initial reaction was to decline, however, I gave myself thoughtful opportunity and time to assess and weigh up what this offering might grant me. Will this detour offer me the discovery and reward for which even I am uncertain of what that is? Will this detour take me to a place that will positively challenge me and grant me much learning? Or will this detour be best for me to bypass at my current place of time and timing?

Giving time to this offering creates another wave of uncertainty. Weighing up options can be daunting and even frightening. Knowing what will or won’t be the right decision can play havoc on our mind and emotions. If we are able to give ourselves just a moment to breathe, recognise if it is an opportunity that is being offered or a lesson to be bypassed.

Right or wrong, many times we will never be certain, as our time cannot be undone nor wound back. Belief and trust in our choice, acceptance of responsibility in understanding a decision is made within the bounds of time and timing. This is what is right in making a choice, deciding which path to stay with or detour from is all part of our life’s completeness of being.

All I know is that without all my own path choices I would not be where and who I am today. Whether I am in what I consider a good place or not, I am here and only further crossings of paths will determine if I stay on this path or chance another opportunity.

Do you ever feel like you just need someone to talk to?

At MUTU World our priority is to listen to our client’s needs, to support our clients as they make sense of life’s challenges and to be openly accessible to all members of our community.

Are you overwhelmed with life’s challenges?

Are you struggling to cope?

Do you ever feel like you just need someone to talk to?

Does it feel like nobody understands?

Do you find it hard to truly express what you are really feeling?

Do you feel alone at times?

We understand that counselling and psychotherapy is not affordable to all. We understand that many of us don’t prioritise our needs for emotional listening and support, finding other areas in our life to spend money on. We understand that not everyone knows how counselling and psychotherapy can improve and sustain positive mental health. We understand that your needs and experiences are different to others.

MUTU World’s professional practitioners are passionate about emotional and mental wellbeing and openly encourage you to manage yours by registering for our Free Friday Clinic (FFC) offering counselling and psychotherapy consultations. Our FFC will be open each week from 10am to 3pm in person at MUTU World or via Skype. Bookings are essential.

Click here to secure your appointment or for further information.

 

What is SADSS?

SADSS (Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Self-Harm & Suicide) is a real life programme that aims to investigate and explore the where, when, why and how comes of stress, anxiety, depression and self-harm & suicide. The programme is designed to simultaneously address areas within both health and education sectors by focusing on: Stress, Anxiety, Depression and Self-harm & Suicide. The aim of this programme is, enabling individuals to understand their own environment and life challenges so they can learn to sustain positive mental health through prevention as well as utilising management strategies if and when necessary.

It is our hope to gain support of the Australian Government to fund a national programme across secondary schools and tertiary institutions.  Please click here to take a 2 minute survey to support our initiative.

Time to talk about self-harm and suicide

Self-harm and suicide are still very much taboo in today’s modern society, yet suicide is the number one killer of young people.  MUTU World promotes open communication and behaviour modelling strategies as a means of tackling and reducing this troubling statistic.

As adults, think about the sort of behaviour we model if we decline to discuss self-harm and suicide.

Is it just me or is it quite ironic to insist that our young people must talk about self-harm or suicide if it exists somewhere in their life (albeit their own or another’s) when their “trusted adults” are too scared to bring the topic into the open?

Giving

What do you give someone who has everything?  You give them an experience.  Give them time.  Give them yourself.

Take them somewhere, do something with them, read to them.  Even if it is sharing a meal (out or at home) – cooking them a meal is an experience and proffers space in which to share stories

And that is what you give someone who has everything.

Grief, Loss & Change

I am always fascinated by our ongoing ability to work through grief, loss and change.  Each and every day every living human being experiences change. The loss that is incorporated in this change exposes us to a process of grief.  Remarkable.  What is even more remarkable is that, on any given day, at least 80% of the human race is unaware of the grief they are continually processing.  This lack of awareness is due to the fact that our losses, which generate change, are either intangible or they are so insignificant in our day-to-day life that we don’t notice.

By allowing ourselves time to acknowledge our experience of unexplained feelings and/or emotions on any given day, we create an opportunity for resolving unrecognised grief in our life and an ability to move forward with change in a positive and sustainable manner.

Interdependence is truth

Interdependence is truth.  Interdependence occurs between beings and/or things experiencing dependence (usually mutually) within the relationship.  We all need another for survival.  For relationship, food, shelter, financial gain, communication, warmth, understanding, health and so on.

Independence is myth, there is no such thing and never has been.  As members of the human race we are innately social creatures.    As individuals, couples, groups, communities, organisations, cultures and nations. We cannot exist alone, not even in the wild for we need to drink and eat and for that we are reliant upon nature and other creatures.

No man is an island (John Donne) and it takes a village to raise a child (African proverb); are both true of what it is to live and exist as a human in our great world regardless of collective or individualistic attributes.

Letting go

For each and every one of us, it is our needs that determine change. 

Letting go of what is not working for you can sometimes prove challenging.  Just recognising what that might be may be the hardest step.  However it doesn’t necessarily mean you need to lose that part of your life completely.  It may be that you only need to let go of 2%, you may need to let go of 98%.  The intention is to recognise what is not working positively or productively for yourself and to make change.